Mommy A to Z

Motherhood, Alphabetized.

November 4, 2016
by Mommy A to Z
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A Difficult Anniversary: A Tribute to a Friend

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A year ago, one of my favorite mom bloggers, and a friend through the blogging community, passed away suddenly, without any warning. Melissa’s insights about parenting, and about life, inspired me to take a step back and appreciate everything and everyone around me. She was a beautiful and gifted writer, a patient and thoughtful parent, and a generous and supportive friend to all of us struggling to find our words and our audience. As a tribute to Melissa, I’m re-running her guest post. If you haven’t spent time on her site, please check out Wading Through Motherhood. She may be gone, but her voice lives on through her powerful words.

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October 19, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

Can We Stop Complaining About People Being Nice?

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OK, moms, I get it. You’re too busy to answer the phone. Any form of communication besides texting should be banned under threat of voodoo-induced torture. Unannounced pop-ins to your home will lead to a visit to the secret (and kinda kinky) dungeon in the basement. Recently, I read about a mom complaining because she was invited to a mom’s night out at T.G.I. Friday’s. Will the horror never end?

You’ve spoken your truth. You’re an introvert. You’re busy. You already have a sacred sister circle. Stop intruding on your life.

Yes, everyone relates to these feelings. But let’s take a minute here. What exactly are we complaining about? People being… nice? Continue Reading →

October 17, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

When Should You Worry About Your Child’s Cough?

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I don’t know about you, but my household is a cacophony of sound from October through March — and I’m not talking about joyful laughter. I mean stubborn, persistent coughs that come and go all cold season long. So, when do the kiddos need to go to the doctor, and when do they just need time, TLC, and a Sofia the First marathon on TV? Dr. Christina Johns, pediatrician, pediatric emergency physician, and Senior Medical Advisor for PM Pediatrics, gives us the inside scoop in this helpful guest post.

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October 13, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

TBT: Fall Activities I Secretly Like More Than My Kids Do


In honor of the cooler days and beckoning apple trees, here’s a throwback post for my fellow autumn lovers…

Ah, fall. Pumpkin Pie. Rust-colored leaves dancing gently in the breeze. Tiny witches and goblins (or, more likely, Elsas and Ninja Turtles) knocking at your door. There’s so much to love about the post-beach, pre-Christmas season. For weeks now, I’ve been dragging my kids from one fall activity to the next, presumably for their entertainment. However, I have to confess that — as much as my 5-year-old looks forward to trick-or-treating — many of these events are more for Mommy’s enjoyment than theirs. Here are three fall activities that make Mommy happy, and which, in all honesty, my kids could probably live without.

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October 3, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

What It Means to Raise a Half-Jewish Child


In honor of the high holidays, here is a look back at a post that had special meaning for me… and maybe for some of you in mixed-faith households. It’s not always easy! Happy New Year to all who celebrate…

Early fall is a time of contradictions. Warm, sunlit days are followed by cool evening breezes, drifting through open windows, foretelling the arrival of cooler times. Days are fuller, yet darkness spreads earlier across the sky. Similarly, every fall, contradictions creep into my own life, as I struggle with the arrival of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. For me, the high holidays are a time of reconnecting with my faith — while recognizing it’s only part of my children’s legacy. Of feeling proud of my past, yet anxious about the future. Of reflecting on how much of my faith I want to — or should — impart to my half-Jewish children. Continue Reading →

September 29, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

My Toddler Has a Potty Mouth


“You made me a turkey sandwich, again?” my toddler asks, looking up at me, his blue eyes sparkling, his entire 3-foot frame radiating mischief. “What the f@&k?”

I wince, and explain to him, yet again, that his word choice isn’t nice or appropriate for a 3-year-old. Yes, he heard Daddy say it. Yes, grownups sometimes say bad words. Yes, Mommy and Daddy should try harder to clean up our act.

This conversation has become exhausting. Continue Reading →

September 21, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

It’s Tough Being the “New Mom” on the Playground

New Mom at Playground

I sit near the slide, watching my daughter and two other girls playing some game I don’t understand. It involves magical powers, which apparently become “activated” by climbing, jumping, and observing a host of complicated second-grade rules. The girls giggle and chase each other around the swings, without a care in the world. It’s everything I’ve wanted, ever since we decided to move to a new town last spring. Watching my daughter making new friends reminds me that all my efforts to help her with the transition — the late-night talks, the weeks of driving her to camp in our new town before we even moved in, volunteering at her school — were all worth it. Much to my relief, things are working out.

Except that, in all my worries about my kids, all my anxiety about their adjusting, I forgot one thing: I’m new here too. And it’s lonely on the playground when you don’t know anyone. Continue Reading →

September 12, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

What I Learned From My Daughter’s Move to a New School

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There were tears the day we announced we’d bought a home.

I don’t mean the tears I cried at the closing when I held the keys to my first house. Or the manly glisten in my husband’s eye as it sank in that he was finally a homeowner. I mean the frustrated, angry, helpless tears of a seven-year-old who was being told she was leaving all her friends (not to mention the four-foot Lothario who’d captured her heart) to start over in a new town.

What seemed like a joyful milestone for us was interpreted by our daughter as Mommy and Daddy conspiring to ruin her life.

I don’t know if it was out of guilt or protectiveness, but at that moment I embarked on a campaign to ease her anxiety and make her transition as seamless as possible. And now that she’s eased into the school year, I’m relieved to say so far, so good. Here are a few lessons I learned as I held her tightly through the frightening process. Continue Reading →

August 15, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

M is for Mindful Mondays (Go With It)

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It’s been a little while since I’ve written. We moved to a new house in a new town, and life has been somewhat chaotic. And, as many parents will relate to, I’ve been navigating the sometimes impossible gap between the end of camp and the beginning of the school year. While it’s a fun and eventful time, my clients don’t always understand that I can’t meet a deadline because I promised my toddler I’d take him for frozen yogurt. It’s a stressful time involving little sleep, lots of delayed promises, and too many guilt-ridden choices. Continue Reading →

July 28, 2016
by Mommy A to Z

Talking to My 7-Year-Old About Miley Cyrus


We were sitting at dinner, when my 7-year-old daughter looked up from her meatballs, paused for a moment, and asked, “You know that woman who sings ‘Wrecking Ball’? Why does she show everyone her bra and underwear?”

For the record, I generally don’t let my second grader watch music videos. Most of what she watches on TV involves talking unicorns and overly pleasant bears. But we do watch The Voice together, and when Miley Cyrus was a guest coach, they showed some clips of her videos. Apparently, it made an impression. Continue Reading →